I’ve been thinking about reflection a lot lately. Maybe because the school year is over and I’m wrapping up finished projects and starting new ones. Maybe it’s because as I’ve grown older, I’ve become more reflective. Mostly though, I think it’s because I believe that reflection is the key to growth, and I look for ways to improve. Taking time to reflect always results in making changes in how I do the things I do.
Uncomfortable Reflection
I don’t always enjoy reflection. I’m never a superstar when I look back over what I’ve done. Most of the time I see things I could or should have done differently. In hindsight, I could have accomplished more, had less stress, or drama, learned more, increased my efficiency, and been more organized. More personally, I could have been kinder, more helpful, more encouraging, and more patient. I could always have been more patient. So it’s not exactly fun.
Joyful Reflection
On the other hand, it’s not a total downer either. I get to see what I’ve accomplished, the goals I’ve achieved, and a whole bunch of new experiences and challenges I didn’t expect, but really enjoyed. Taking time to reflect helps me appreciate all the great people in my life; my family and old and new friends. We celebrated graduations, birthdays, new homes, and even qualifying for the Boston Marathon (my husband). Reflection brings gratitude because I am so lucky to get to celebrate with the people in my life.
Balanced Reflection
I think the key to growing through reflection is to find the balance between celebrating success and taking steps to improve. When I look at things reflected in water, it’s never a clear or perfect picture. Shapes are exaggerated and lines are blurred. What you see are fuzzy images rather than crisp detail, because we reflect through a filter of our own feelings and thoughts. Knowing this, I focus on learning from my reflections, changing the things I can change, and enjoying the celebrations. Doing this helps me grow both professionally and personally, and makes the reflective process both useful and satisfying.